It isn’t at all unusual for empaths and narcissists to be attracted to one another, and that can create a toxic relationship. But can the empath with their special talent actually change the narcissist? 

Empaths can destroy a narcissist, but any desire to truly change must come from within the narcissist. Narcissistic people have the ability to treat an empath differently without actually changing. Empaths might reduce the narcissist’s bad behavior, but that doesn’t mean they’ve really changed. 

To really change a narcissist, the narcissist has to want to change. While an empath can help with that by exposing their bad behavior, true change involves more than that. Let’s explore the narcissistic relationship, the possibilities for change, and the role the empath plays. 

What is the Narcissistic Relationship Like?

Narcissists lack empathy, have a strong sense of entitlement, and need a constant supply of adoration from the people around them. These traits often result from childhood trauma that caused an incomplete development of the narcissist’s identity, as you can see in this video. 

As a result, the narcissist came to believe they were hopelessly flawed. They became filled with a sense of self-loathing and shame. They buried their true self and constructed a false self imbued with exaggerated traits of perfection and superiority. 

It is this false self that the narcissist uses to interact with the world around them; however, the false self cannot support the narcissist’s self-esteem. That’s why they need external validation from the people around them. 

They learn early on to manipulate people to get that narcissistic supply. Because their need is a constant one, they are always thinking about how to keep that adoration flowing. This is why the narcissistic relationship is full of manipulation and emotional abuse. 

Narcissists use techniques like gaslighting, lying, triangulation, and projection to manipulate their victims. These are extremely toxic tactics that cause a great deal of emotional damage. 

According to researchers at the University of Wollongong, Australia, “The vulnerable aspect of pathological narcissism impacts others in an insidious way given the core deficits of feelings of emptiness and affective instability”.

Empaths often pick up on the inner turmoil the narcissist struggles with on a daily basis. Being compassionate individuals, they want to help them, but it’s a difficult task. Though they have good intentions, the empath can’t force change on the narcissist. 

Moreover, the narcissist might, in fact, learn to tailor their behavior to appease the empath without actually changing. In the worst-case scenario, the empath will fall victim to the narcissist’s manipulation and the trauma bond it creates, and they may fall into a pattern of codependency. 

If that happens, there is little to no chance the narcissist will change, and the abuse will become increasingly toxic. 

What is the Theoretical Possibility of Changing a Narcissist?

Narcissistic behavior is one of the most challenging personality traits to modify or change. Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder often exhibit a sense of entitlement, an inflated sense of self, a lack of empathy, and a propensity for emotional manipulation. While it is possible to change some of these traits, changing a narcissist’s core personality is very difficult.

To understand the theoretical possibility of changing a narcissist, it’s essential to understand the root causes of this personality disorder. People with narcissistic personality disorder often have experienced some form of childhood trauma, such as neglect, abandonment, or abuse.

As a result, they develop a defense mechanism to protect themselves from experiencing similar emotional wounds, which is often manifested in the form of pathological narcissism.

Several interventions can help narcissists change their behavior, including mental health professionals, therapy sessions, and personality-targeted techniques. However, the intervention efficacy would vary depending on several factors. Personality type, level of empathy, childhood experiences, and trauma play a vital role in determining the extent and effectiveness of these interventions.

One of the most effective interventions for narcissistic personality disorder is therapy sessions. Mental health professionals can help provide these individuals with a safe space to express themselves honestly, unpack their underlying wounds, and develop healthy coping mechanisms.

However, it is crucial to note that the desire to change should come from within the individual, as therapy or counseling sessions cannot force someone to change their core personality traits.

While theoretical possibilities of changing a narcissist exist, it is essential to keep in mind that the change must come from within the individual. Narcissistic personality traits are deeply ingrained in an individual’s psyche and cannot be modified without the person’s willingness to accept help and confront their underlying issues head-on. 

What is the Relationship Between an Empath and a Narcissist?

The dynamic between empaths and narcissists is a complex and often toxic one. Empaths are individuals who possess a heightened ability to empathize with the emotions and feelings of others. 

They are often compassionate and caring individuals who seek to help those in need. On the other hand, narcissists are individuals with a personality disorder characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy, and a need for constant admiration.

When empaths and narcissists enter into a relationship, it can quickly become a dangerous cycle of emotional narcissistic abuse. Narcissists are often attracted to empaths because of their compassionate and caring nature, which the narcissist can manipulate to gain control and admiration.

Empaths are often drawn to narcissists because they see the potential for healing and transformation in them.

However, over time, this relationship often becomes toxic, and the empath can become trapped in a cycle of emotional manipulation and abuse. The narcissist will often use the empath’s kindness and empathy to manipulate, control, and exploit them, leaving the empath feeling drained, unloved, and unappreciated.

At the same time, the empath does not want to give up on the narcissist, hoping that they can help them heal and change their behavior. This cycle of abuse can be difficult to break and may result in codependency.

That’s why the empath must understand that they cannot change the narcissist and that healing and transformation are possible only if the desire for change comes from within the individual. It is also essential for empaths to seek professional help to work through the emotional trauma caused by their relationship with a narcissist. 

Working with a mental health professional can help the empath develop healthy coping mechanisms and learn to rebuild their self-esteem and self-worth.

Can an Empath Change a Narcissist?

Empaths may feel drawn to narcissists because they believe they can help them heal and change their behavior. However, the reality is that narcissists are unlikely to change without a strong desire for self-improvement that comes from within. 

This is because narcissistic behavior is deeply ingrained in the individual’s personality and can stem from past traumas and emotional wounds. Attempting to change a narcissist may lead to frustration and disappointment for the empath, as their efforts are often met with resistance or manipulation.

In order for healing and transformation to occur, both the empath and the narcissist must take responsibility for their actions and seek professional help. A mental health professional can help the narcissist, as this video shows, identify the root causes of their behavior and develop healthy coping mechanisms.

The empath can benefit from therapy as well, to work through the trauma caused by their relationship with the narcissist and to develop a stronger sense of self-worth and self-esteem.

Ultimately, it is not up to the empath to change the narcissist. Rather, it is up to both individuals to take responsibility for their own healing and growth and to create healthy boundaries and communication in their relationships.

This is as true for the empath as it is for the narcissist. While an empath might be able to influence a narcissist’s behavior, true change must be something they genuinely want for themselves. 

If they do, there are a few pros to helping a narcissist change. Aside from knowing you’ve helped another person, it can help you as well. Still, caution is required because there are also some cons to helping a narcissist change. Let’s take a look at some of the pros and cons. 

The Pros of Trying to Change a Narcissist

While it’s true that it can be difficult to change a narcissist, there are some potential benefits to trying to do so. Here are a few potential pros:

Pros	Potential Benefits
	Improved Relationship: If a narcissist is willing to work on their behavior, it may lead to a healthier and happier relationship overall. By addressing the underlying issues and developing healthy coping mechanisms, both the empath and the narcissist may find that their interactions become less toxic and more fulfilling.
	Growth and Self-Reflection: Attempting to change a narcissist may require both parties to engage in deep self-reflection. The empath may need to examine why they are drawn to narcissistic behavior, while the narcissist may need to confront past traumas and emotional wounds. This process can lead to personal growth and greater insight into oneself.
	Break the Cycle of Abuse: Narcissistic behavior can be cyclical, and attempting to change a narcissist may help break the pattern. If the narcissist can learn healthier ways of coping with their emotions, they may be less likely to engage in abusive behavior in the future. This can benefit not only the empath but also any future partners or loved ones in the narcissist’s life

While these potential benefits may be enticing, it’s important to remember that attempting to change a narcissist can also be incredibly difficult and may not ultimately lead to success. It’s ultimately up to each individual to weigh the pros and cons and decide what is best for their own mental and emotional well-being.

The Cons of Trying to Change a Narcissist

While attempting to change a narcissist may lead to a healthier relationship and personal growth, there are also several potential downsides to consider. In fact, many mental health professionals caution against trying to change a narcissist, as it may not always be effective and can even be harmful.

Cons	Harmful Effects
	NPD and narcissistic behavior is deeply ingrained in a person’s personality and may stem from past traumas. Therefore, changing this behavior can be a difficult and arduous process that requires a lot of dedication and effort. Unfortunately, not all narcissists are willing or able to put in the work necessary to truly change their behavior.
	Trying to change a narcissist can also perpetuate the cycle of abuse and trauma bonding. The empath may become convinced that they can fix the narcissist or that their love and support can change them, thus becoming stuck in a toxic and abusive relationship. This pattern can be damaging to both parties and prolong the healing process.
	Attempting to change a narcissist can also lead to a loss of personal boundaries and a sense of self. The empath may become so preoccupied with fixing the narcissist that they neglect their own needs and well-being. This can erode their own sense of self and lead to codependency.

It’s important to recognize that not all narcissists can be changed. In some cases, narcissistic behavior may be pathological and require professional intervention to manage. It’s essential to seek the help of mental health professionals when dealing with narcissistic behavior, as attempting to change a narcissist without professional guidance can be ineffective and potentially harmful.

How Can an Empath Protect Themselves from Narcissistic Abuse?

A healthy boundary is essential for anyone who wants to maintain their physical, mental, and emotional well-being. This is especially true for people who are in a relationship with a narcissist.

When someone has a narcissistic personality disorder, they often have a sense of entitlement, a lack of empathy, and an inflated sense of self-worth. These traits lead them to disregard their partner’s boundaries, and this can lead to emotional and psychological abuse.

Establishing healthy boundaries is an important way to protect oneself against this kind of abuse. Here are some tips on establishing them in romantic relationships:

1. Identify what is and isn’t acceptable: Before setting any boundaries, it’s essential to have a clear idea of what is and isn’t acceptable to you. It’s important to note that everyone has different boundaries, and it is up to the individual to determine them.
2. Communicate your boundaries: Once you’ve identified your boundaries, it’s important to communicate them to your partner. This can include telling them what you will and won’t tolerate and what you expect from the relationship. It is essential to be clear and firm in your communication.
3. Enforce your boundaries: Establishing boundaries is one thing, but enforcing them is another. If your partner violates one of your boundaries, it’s essential to take action to enforce it. This could mean setting consequences or even ending the relationship if necessary.
4. Practice self-care: Setting and enforcing boundaries can be emotionally draining. It’s important to take care of yourself by practicing self-care. This can involve meditation, exercise, spending time with loved ones, or engaging in hobbies that bring you joy.
5. Seek support: Finally, it’s essential to seek support as you navigate the process of establishing and enforcing boundaries. This could include seeking guidance from a mental health professional, joining a support group, or confiding in trusted loved ones.

Establishing healthy boundaries is an essential aspect of maintaining a healthy romantic relationship. It’s important to identify what is and isn’t acceptable, communicate clearly, enforce your boundaries, practice self-care, and seek support along the way.

By doing so, you can protect yourself from emotional and psychological abuse and create a relationship based on respect and mutual understanding.

Can a Narcissist Benefit from Therapy?

Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a mental health condition characterized by a lack of empathy, self-centeredness, and an inflated sense of self-importance. The behavior of individuals with NPD may cause problems in their personal and professional relationships and impact their mental and emotional well-being.

But can a narcissist benefit from therapy? The short answer is yes, with a caveat.

Therapy offers individuals with NPD the opportunity to explore their behavior, attitudes, and relationships with others under the guidance of a mental health professional. If the narcissist is motivated to change and actively participates in therapy, they can benefit from it.

However, this is easier said than done. Narcissists are notoriously resistant to therapy due to their inflated sense of self and belief that they don’t need help.

That said, therapy can be a long and challenging process for a narcissist. It requires them to acknowledge their behavior and thoughts and understand the impact they have on others. Through therapy, narcissists can learn to develop empathy, foster healthy relationships, and gain insight into their behavior.

Therapy can help narcissists by providing them with a safe space to discuss their thoughts and emotions. It can also help them learn new coping strategies and communication skills and give them a better understanding of other people’s perspectives.

Additionally, therapy can help narcissists address any underlying mental health issues that may contribute to their behavior, such as anxiety or depression.

It’s important to note that therapy is not a quick fix for NPD. The process can take months or even years, depending on the individual’s willingness to participate in the process fully.

How Can You Convince a Narcissist to Seek Help?

Dealing with a narcissist can be a difficult and trying experience, both for yourself and for those around you. If someone in your life has narcissistic tendencies or full-blown NPD, you may have noticed their patterns of self-centeredness, lack of empathy, and difficulty forming meaningful relationships with others.

If you care about a narcissist and want to help them seek treatment, the first step is to understand that it may be an uphill battle. Narcissists are resistant to therapy because they do not believe that they have a problem. They may see any criticism as a personal attack and may get defensive or aggressive when confronted with their behavior.

So, how can you convince a narcissist to seek help? Here are some approaches you can try:

• Appeal to their self-interest

Narcissists often have an inflated sense of self-importance. You can use this to your advantage by framing therapy as an opportunity for them to become an even better version of themselves. Emphasize that therapy can help them achieve their goals, such as improving their relationships or advancing their career.

• Use their fear of abandonment

Narcissists often fear abandonment and rejection. You can use this fear to encourage them to seek help by emphasizing that their behavior is pushing people away and damaging their relationships.

• Seek support from others

Narcissists are more likely to listen to people they respect and admire. Enlist the help of a respected authority figure, such as a therapist, religious leader, or trusted friend, to encourage them to seek help.

• Be honest and direct

It’s important to approach the topic of therapy with a narcissist in a calm and non-threatening way. Avoid attacking them or criticizing their behavior, as this will only make them defensive. Instead, be honest and direct about your concerns and emphasize your desire to see them happy and healthy.

• Give them time and space

It’s important to remember that change takes time, and a narcissist may not be ready to seek help right away. Be patient and understanding, and give them the time and space they need to come to their own conclusions.

Final Thoughts

Navigating a relationship with a narcissist can be difficult and emotionally taxing, but it’s important to remember that change is possible. While it may be challenging, there are actions that can be taken to potentially help the narcissist seek help and improve their behavior.

It’s also important to prioritize your own mental health and well-being. Setting firm boundaries and seeking support from friends, family, or mental health professionals can be crucial in the healing process. Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness, and it’s not your responsibility to fix the narcissist’s behavior.